With the beginning of  2008 I would like to share some advices on how to please the husband (if you have oneJ). These few tips are really simple and only the fruit of my current really short experience of wife. I’d like to share them because they are working for real with me and I can see my marriage as growing to such a beautiful speed. Also I would love you to share your advices in regard so that more and more women could get an idea of a precious marriage to take care of. In no order:  

Food:     Cook at least one meal for your husband during 4-5 days per week. Ask him if he likes it, try to understand his tastes. Sweetly challenge him with completely new meals from diverse styles and cultures. Serve him with delicacy and generosity also putting morsels in his dish once in a while during the meal.

Prepare little snacks for him (or even cut in small pieces some leftover) especially while he is working at home. Go and feed him the first mouthful, then leave the plate next to him. Try to serve these snacks with pinches, not cutlery. Try to give him a home made lunch box for work at least once or a couple of days during the week.

Expressions:    Touch him sweetly sometimes while you are having a chat. Play with his hand for a little while when you are telling something nice or funny for example. Also are you able to blink with both eyes? This is kind of magic: I found whenever I blink to him his response to any current happening is open and free.

 Did you test your voice? Do you enjoy singing or reading poetries aloud (even by yourself)?  Why I am asking that? Because we must have an impeccable tonality of voice when we speak to our husband. It should be modulate transmitting care and understanding all the time, either if we are serious or joking. Balance should travel on the waves of our voice towards his senses. That, when we are together alone. In company I suggest to talk as less as possible when there is the husband present. Give him more moral and silent support if for example you are joining a table dinner with other people. Let him talk more then you and listen to him at the same time! With regard to discussing anything, give some “touches” to your discussion by also driving his attention on beautiful things on diverse topics. For example you are discussing about a work and suddenly you point out a cute child passing by inviting him to watch. Things like that.  Once in a while when you feel it is a good moment, write him something. Just spontaneously. It can be a short letter or poetry. Send it thru email or written by hand. Draw flowers for him with colors, he will feel your affection and will open more and more to the gentleness of being in couple.  

Attention:   You have to get to know your husband every day more. And more. Because you are developing something great together. It is not that you get a different husband every day. You got one and you must treat him with immense respect, dignity, affection, simplicity. Then only you can grow together and touch the heaven any time, even in situations that can seem terrible or problematic to the eyes of others. Check him up regularly, gently. Possibly meditate with him once in a while during the week. Give him head or back massage at least once a week. Make him feeling “concretely” supported and refreshed. Give him joy and pleasure with devote generosity. He deserves it.   

Gifts:    Give him nice clothes, they do not have to be really expensive but of the colors he prefers and feels more comfortable with. Buy things that you are sure he appreciates. Also useful things for his hobbies, fun and learning. You will find the right stuff, no doubt. What else would you add here?